Make sure that everyone is on the same page. Talk to your future spouse and your Celebrant and make sure everyone is okay with personalized wedding vows. Some couples prefer to use traditional wording, while others prefer to have completely customised vows. You'll also want to make sure that your sweetheart also wants to do it. While you're at it, decide together whether you want one wedding vow that you will both say, or whether you want individual vows.

Answer some simple questions Yep, it's homework time. Sit down in a quiet space with paper and pen and answer these questions. Even if you don't think the answer will end up in your wedding vows, still take the time to write it down. It may help you in the long run.

• What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
• When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry?
• What does marriage mean to you? Why do you want to be a married person?
• What will change about your relationship once you are married? What will stay the same?
• What is your most favorite memory of your partner?
• When you were little, did you dream of your wedding day or your future spouse? How does that vision match up (or not) with your sweetheart?